How to Keep Your New Year’s Resolution
Has anyone actually KEPT a new year’s resolution? I have the answer to that challenge. My book, Stress-Free Discipline, has an unusual component which retains parental authority but invites deep thinking in and help from your children.
Ask yourself: am I humble enough to get real help rather than pay a psychologist for years of hidden, fruitless venting? Does my child learn adult skills or accept adult responsibilities that way?
Or, am I giving my child the habit of ministering to our family for a lifetime of blessing?
It only takes a month of practice to form a good habit which will serve family needs and help your child for a lifetime. With Christ and Stress-free Discipline you have the power and the plan to succeed. Read the rest of this entry »
Family Life: Solitary Independent Play?
Do you have an optimal family life? What is good by itself may be the enemy of what is best or optimal. Read the rest of this entry »
What attracts a good man?
A young friend just e-mailed me a question about the link between fashion and sexual attractiveness in finding a husband. Here’s my answer: I wouldn’t know about the relationship between fashion and romance, but that doesn’t prevent me from having an opinion! It’s your choice, of course.
Personally, I think men are genetically “wired” to respond to a woman’s body (such as not fat and preferably in good shape) as well as other characteristics not related to color of clothing. Energy stemming from good health, for example, is sexy.
Black clothing, however, in one culture will connote one thing (mourning), and the opposite in another culture (joy). What culture are you aiming for?
Black is the preference of downtown business people and, in general, more conservative people, in my opinion. If you’re aiming for a conservative (low risk-taking) man, you would do well to wear it, along with modest styling and longer hemline and higher bustline. Read the rest of this entry »
Christ-centered Relationship-building
Selfishness is worth another look when I have time, but here’s advice I just posted to my son, who is looking for a mate.
Selfishness is the default answer for all humans. We don’t have to remain there. A self-centered relationship or a performance-based relationship will not bring long-term happiness. A Christ-centered relationship will last the long journey of joyful marriage. Read the rest of this entry »
Arizona Immigration Law
Let’s take racism out of the mix in responding to this law. Since I have two sons who are part Native American, part Black, and half Anglo, I feel qualified to comment on the excess of emotionalism surrounding this issue. Read the rest of this entry »
Course Planning in Process
San Diego, CA: Course curriculum maps and other information is available for San Diego readers receptive to a hybrid series of classes on Stress-Free Discipline. Coursework is pending at St. James and at Trinity Lutheran churches. The course launch is October 30 at Trinity Lutheran church on 7210 Lisbon Street, San Diego, 92114. If you are interested in signing up, please respond to this post or call Phillip Sammuli, at 619.262.1633!
Book Release
Stress-Free Discipline gives you tested, unique, time-saving tools for tots-to-teens discipline!
This step-by-step plan not only reduces stress, it builds life-long love, teamwork, life skills and responsibility.
- Five expectation sets are realistic, gradually building complex skills.
- Children master adult skills almost painlessly.
- They are rewarded for every right choice.
- Negatives are minimized, releasing energy for building and bonding.
- Motivational rewards are simple, fun and educational.
- Parents and children grow accountable in a bond of love.
Endorsements
William C. Reeves, Ph.D. Human Behavior writes: “Stress Free Discipline presents some great ideas that have been successfully used to help children mature. Setting up positive rewards for good behavior is presented as the best way to help children learn self discipline and appropriate behavior. Children are also presented with the reality that poor behavior results in unwanted consequences for them. Behavior is tracked by a point system that allows the child to understand the results of both good and improper actions.”
Charles Jeter, Combat Veteran, Software Engineer writes: “Stress Free Discipline has valuable strategy and rules of engagement.”
John Demas, attorney writes: “Stress Free Discipline has worked with my children. Judith has a gift.”
Gary Kirk, pastor, publisher, counselor writes: “As the father of a son with special needs, I feel your book should be required reading for everyone involved in an IEP—educators and parents alike…From many years of being a small group pastor and counselor, I consistently see the need for parents to find the kind of equipping that you have offered in your book.”
Contact Judith to purchase the book ($17.95 + shipping), or contact legacylinepublishing.com.
Protect yourself from Cyber-Crime
Internet security, identity theft, Computer safety, Charles Jeter
The statistics about cyber-crime and data breach are shocking. Don’t be ignorant or you’re next.
ESET, a local San Diego anti-virus software company, recently started a not-for-profit grassroots educational effort to secure our San Diego e-City against this threat through education. It’s a Neighborhood Watch style educational program for the community targeted at preventing cyber-crime.
SOEC website: www.securingourecity.org
For a direct link to the on-demand training: Securing Our eCity Training Presentation
Who Provides Wisdom?
Teaching, knowledge, parenting
Wisdom is the godly, practical use of knowledge. Knowledge is power.
Parents translate the world to their children. The world is confusing and untruthful. What to do? How to do it? What is meaningfull and what needs to be ignored? One challenge for parents is believing they have to learn all the information all at once.
Preparing Youth in a Rapidly Changing world
education, career change
A Master’s Degree student in one of my classes posted this comment: [Considering the contents of this video]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cL9Wu2kWwSY
It states that today’s learner will have 10 – 14 jobs by the age of 38. There’s also some other “WoW” stuff shown in this video. With that knowledge, how do we efficiently prepare these young people for a “career?”
Marie L. Woolley
So do not fear, for I am with you…..
Isaiah 41:10
I posted this response:
The Bible seems like a good start! The basic issues and answers to life are there. (I had to try transcendental meditation, Buddhism, Unitarianism, hypnosis, humanism, etc. before I came to that conclusion.)
Naturally the critical thinking and problem solving skills come to mind, along with the ability to find and critique information which is useful. I would say also that young people need to learn how to meditate, stop and enjoy the benefits of silence. There is so much stimulation that one gets used to automatically skimming the surface of life…must have noisy distraction bypassing my thought life…need it, need it…massaging my feelings…love it…love it…
We self-distract because the media has shortened our attention span. Reading, on the other hand, lengthens the attention span.
When did speed and noise become essential to deep thought? Never, of course…but this nation pursues both in some sort of irrational adrenalin addiction…see books by Dr. Archibald Hart. One which comes to mind is Healing Life’s Hidden Addictions. Read the rest of this entry »