Who’s running the ship?
In the Navy, sailors inform the commander and then follow his orders.
Researchers gather data, organize it, submit it upline, filter it through their knowledge, experience, values and sometimes bias. Artificial intelligence is interpreted by human intelligence.
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Yet, no matter how intelligent the sailors are, they submit their lives and their skills to the greater good. All good commanders are humbled by their responsibility and the awareness that it was their team which achieved the victory, not their own brilliance.
A 17 year old sailor influences the course of thousands of others on the carrier.
In the same way, feelings inform thinking and should submit to conclusions thoughtfully made in your home.
When feelings are in command, we are tempest tossed, up and down with any tide. Yet without the support and information of our feelings, thinking is weak, unbalanced, and blind.
Feelings are a source of power only when they are under the control of thought.
Feelings can send us into a perfect storm of a life if they are not disciplined by thought. Imagine a commander who has mind-bending irrational fits ten days out of every month or when berthing a ship.
Feelings are manipulated by ad agencies, politicians, media and spouses for their own ends. Our children are taking notes.
Their ability to discipline themselves, control their impulses, enrich their lives, and inform their future all depends on us. We translate the world for them.
It is scary. Will our family values survive? Media myths are confusing everyone. How will children make choices for their future?
The Navy has commanders. Football games have coaches. Cheerleaders have a Head Cheerleader. Families have leaders.
"You can’t have all Chiefs and no Indians" as my Grandma used to say.
But wait! Who is the leader in your family? Do children make the rules because you lack leadership skills? Do husband and wife fight constantly without settling basic leadership issues? Where will you live? How will you live?
Consider your family. Who is the sailor and who is the commander, responsible for the whole ship?
Imagine a commander with responsibility but no power.
Perhaps that is your husband. God has given him responsibility for the whole family.
Wives, have you grabbed command of your ship? Has power been stripped from your marriage because your feelings have sent your family into a whirlpool of emotional choices?
Are you really the one who should be making the basic decisions in your family?
I suggest that God’s plan is the one most likely to succeed. Superhuman power is behind it.
Everyone submits to Christ, the High Commander. Then husbands make the decisions after consulting with counselors and family members. They make a reasoned choice.
Wives, take it from Grandma DeSelm. Stop fighting your man.
Those power grabs will finally exhaust you and they are rough on your body. Your adrenals give out.
They are part of the Genesis 3 curse when Adam and Eve got evicted from the Garden of Eden. Eve was cursed to desire to dominate her husband, but Adam was to rule over her. Women, then, need to get used to that reality.
The godly family functions as a team without bickering over who will submit to whom in the end. 
Every member has valuable skills, personality traits, and insights. Commanders know that.
Husbands know that or find it out in God’s time, not ours, ladies.
God holds men directly accountable for every family member, as the commander is held accountable for the welfare of every sailor.
Family members need to follow all moral orders as sailors follow commands and angels follow God: with joy, in detail. That is how it is done in Heaven. Practice now.
